Worrying about your birth sucks, right? It makes you feel like shit.
When it comes to birth there are lots of things that can make us feel a bit anxious. After all, it’s the biggest day of your life and that’s totally normal! But sometimes worry takes over.
Perhaps you have a tendency to panic and you are worried you are going to cope with it all on the day.
Or maybe it’s hearing all those birth horror stories from friends & the media that has you feeling all wobbly.
You might even be like a lot of the women we meet at our Hypnobirthing classes and just have this sense of unease or anxiety that you can’t quite put your finger on because it’s all just so UNKNOWN and maybe it’s that that scares you the most.
We hear you loud and clear and we want to help you stop worrying about birth.
Here’s the thing about worrying, it doesn’t solve the problem. It only makes you suffer in the meantime. And on an intellectual level, you are probably nodding along saying ‘No shit Sherlock’
But there’s a difference between knowing something and FEELING It.
I was shit scared about birth and no matter how many times I told myself it was ‘the most natural thing in the world’ or ‘women have been doing this for thousands of years’ it didn’t mean anything or make me feel better.
But what’s going to help you stop worrying about birth?
We have put together some tried and tested tips that have helped us and our many clients over the years and we hope you find them helpful too.
Stop worrying about birth
1. Talk about it.
Call out the fear. It’s OK to be afraid, this is a major life-changing event and probably the most important day of your life! The first time I admitted that I was totally shit scared was in my first Hypnobirthing class, as others did the same and it felt GREAT. Admitting it to yourself is the first step in releasing the fear and getting the support you need.
Tell yourself, tell your partner and tell anyone else you trust to support you.
We recommend discussing your anxieties with your midwife who can assess the level of your fear and perhaps even refer your for free specialist treatment. BONUS.
2. Get your head out of the sand and get informed!
The idea of birth can feel abstract. You find it hard to talk about birth or have been putting off your antenatal classes. Because of the worrying, you might be burying your head in the sand and perhaps even in denial about how you are feeling altogether.
Fear makes us do shit like that
Make the call now to step into your POWER.
Start asking questions, be it in your midwife appointment or antenatal classes, research your rights in childbirth and seek out evidence-based resources to make a truly informed and empowered decision about your care.
I remember when I found out how many choices were open to me when it came to birth. THAT was a gamechanger and discovering that ultimately I had to CONSENT to some of the things I was so worried about was such a relief and it put me firmly back in the driving seat.
3. Think about what could go RIGHT
Have you EVER heard birth talked about in a positive way? Many of the clients we meet on a day to day basis have only heard horror stories and if that’s the case for you well I am not surprised that you are worried about birth.
Surround yourself with positivity. Watch birth videos, Listen to podcasts about birth, play with affirmations. Lean into what feels good for you. be playful, be a sponge and soak it all up!
The first place I would start would be to read the Positive birth book by Milli Hill for positive birth stories with all sorts of circumstances and outcomes. Ina May Gaskin’s books are also ace and very popular with our hypnobirthing clients.
Our brains actually respond better to positive reinforcement so start thinking about the birth you WANT rather than the one you don’t want.
4. Talk about your ‘what if’s’
Something, in particular, worrying you? Induction? Forceps? Cesarean?
Let’s take it out of the box, and ask the question
We think this has to be one of the most powerful exercises you can do in the run-up to birth to help you stop worrying.
By asking the questions and learning what might happen in these scenarios, it helps you and your partner to feel as prepared as possible and ready for anything.
There are also techniques that we share with our clients to help them make decisions with confidence if things don’t go to 100 percent plan on the day and the research shows that the more you are involved in the decision-making process, the more likely you are to be happy with the outcome. It’s all about feeling in control.
5. Get thee to a HYPNOBIRTHING class.
Repeat after me, you do not have to do this alone! Hypnobirthing is GOLD DUST if you are worried about birth.
How Hypnobirthing differs from other classes (like your bump and baby or NCT) is that it focuses on mind, mindset, and feelings about birth. It’s like a sports psychology for birth, getting you mentally ready for a physical feat and using the tools that top athletes use in sport to get ready for birth.
Hypnobirthing gives you and your partner the tools and techniques to prepare for a positive birth and step confidently into parenthood.
It’s not a quick fix but it does have the power to transform how you think and feel about birth
You can STOP worrying and start feeling excited and empowered about your big day. After all, this is something to be celebrated!
Check out our courses here and discover the best option for you
Katie & Gabi